AoM Behavior | Soft Skill Strategy Courses

Art of Manliness
Behavior, Character

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Podcast #53

Experimenting With Your Life with A.J. Jacobs
November 8, 2013 * Last updated September 27, 2021

Podcast #105

Resilience With Eric Greitens
March 12, 2015 * Last updated: July 2, 2023

Podcast #108

The Upside of Your Dark Side With Todd Kashdan
April 2, 2016 * Last updat4d: September 28, 2021

Times can be slightly different on different platforms.

Incubating creativity
Listen for: “There’s a big thing that we know about creativity,
and almost every business organization gets this wrong.”
About 25:22 to about 26:44

Caveat for anger / productive anger / effective anger
Listen for: “What about anger?
That’s something else that’s often directed toward men.”
About 29:45 to about 35:45

Gossip ears networking
Listen for: “If you’re in a group setting and everybody’s agreeing about an issue,
you can actually gain a great amount of leverage…”
About 46:26 to about 47:04

Podcast #121

Strategic and Critical Thinking With Tom Ruby
July 5, 2015 * Last updated: September 28, 2021

Podcast #124

Self-Discipline & Personal Effectiveness With Rory Vaden
July 23, 2015 * Lat updated: September 28, 2021

Podcast #149

Taking Action in an Uncertain and Hack-Focused World
October 24, 2015 * Last updated: September 28, 2021

Podcast #168

The Value of Deep Work in the Age of Distraction
January 12, 2016 * Last updated September 28, 2021

Deep work is more difficult for women, of course.
Men frequently interrupt women when they are talking,
so it follows that men would interrupt women’s deep work.
It’s called ‘manterrupting.’

I once devised a strategy for ending interruptions from
the dozens of women and men in my office.
Both male managers respected my strategy.

In 2000, I was payroll supervisor for a regional office
of the U.S. Census Bureau. One day a week,
I had to complete all of my weekly tasks and
submit the payroll to Washington D.C.
It was difficult to complete those tasks
with people interrupting my focus to ask
questions or start discussions that had nothing to do with payroll.
I came up with a visual solution.

I own a collection of vintage hats. I brought a hat to payroll day
and announced that while I was wearing the hat,
I was off limits for questions or discussions. It worked wonderfully well.
No one approached me while I was wearing my hats for the rest of that decennial census.

I was more effective completing my weekly tasks.
I was more effective with the questions and
discussions after sending off payroll.
Plus, I enjoyed wearing my hats and people enjoyed seeing the variety of hats.

Better interactions with coworkers improves life for you men, as well.