September 1, 2024

Tell them you’re not interested in their bad gossip.

 

Remedy Revenge Strategy

Ending toxic words

 

Example #1: Workplace

I once did part time temporary office work for a building contractor friend. Before he left the office one day, he said a subcontractor would be in to use his computer. I said okay.

The subcontractor arrived, sat at my friend’s computer, and began spewing bad gossip about my friend. After several minutes I had enough and said,

“I don’t want to hear it.”

The subcontractor paused, then changed subjects. He was quite a talker, but he no longer talked about my friend.

 

Example #2: Family

A relative made an extremely difficult situation worse for me. The sudden, unexpected appearance of her ex-husband stressed her out. I was in no mood to listen to her anxieties and she had other people to talk to in that house. I had to repeat “I don’t want to hear it” twice, but she did stop telling me about her anxieties. I was then able to cope with my own stress, the sudden death of my husband.

 

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