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Soft skill strategies are power strategies.
As an employer/manager, you can influence employees to collaborate with each other.
As an individual, you can influence coworkers to treat you positively.
In the works!
In person and online workshops becoming online self-study courses.
2 Short & Sweet Self-Study Courses
Attracting Unimagined Success
Collaboration Up / Toxic Gossip Down
(Rewards Up / Losses Down)
Wherever you are in your workplace,
you can take at least some control to reduce the incivility of toxic gossip.
Toxic Gossip can cost companies $14,000 per employee.
Toxic gossip increases legal costs and compliance risks.
Toxic gossip causes major health problems.
Explanations of good, bad, and ugly gossip characteristics #1, #2, #7, #8
Gossip Ears Networking
After you finish the course, you will have lifetime access to the Gossip Treasury.
Dozens of strategies for:
Encouraging good gossip, with real world examples
Discouraging bad gossip, with real world examples
Short-circuiting ugly gossip, with real world examples
Connecting Gossip Cells, with real world examples
Gossip Ears Networking, with “listen for’s” and 1 “chat for”
Using soft skill power strategies with yourself to help you develop a deserving mindset.
Bonus #1: No quizzes
Bonus #2: Occasional emails announcing new additions to the Gossip Treasury: real world examples, new resources, and new strategies for success when Paula creates or discovers them.
Total Video Lesson Time: 44 Minutes
6 videos under 1 minute
15 videos under 2 minutes
1 under 3 minutes
3 videos under 4 minutes
1 video under 5 minutes
3 Behavior Transforming Steps is gossip video #2.
You fill in 16 story forms between videos.
The story forms follow the storytelling outline in 3 Behavior Transforming Steps.
If you take 5 minutes to fill in 16 story forms,
you can finish this course in approximately 2 hours.
You will receive emails with new additions to the Gossip Treasury
at least a few times a year.
A short & sweet course with continuing benefits.
Career Advancement Up / Career Backlash Down
(Loyalty Up / Stereotypes Down)
Glass ceilings are the backlash of stereotypes.
Inviting loyalty can break the stereotypes that build glass ceilings.
Learn how to create Invitation For Loyalty Plans
to limit backlash from someone who stereotypes you.
Return whenever you need a new Invitation for Loyalty Plan
to limit backlash.
Glass ceilings exist for:
Men of color
Workers who are the ‘wrong’ age
People with the ‘wrong’ upbringing
Workplace violence can happen when:
3 different beliefs about circumstances create anger.
Moments that satisfy
3 groups of people
Stereotypes and glass ceilings
Feelings that trigger workplace violence
Verbal clues and moments of dignity invites for each DISC behavior style
Natural, benefit, and backlash beware behaviors for each DISC behavior style
A real world backlash beware story for each DISC behavior style
Verbal clues and moments of passion invites for each Spranger guiding value
Natural, benefit, and backlash beware behaviors for each Spranger guiding value
A real world backlash beware story for each Spranger guiding value
At the end of the course Paula explains 2 successful Invitation To Loyalty Plans:
Paula opened a supervisor’s slammed door on one job. The supervisor went from being angry with Paula to laughing with Paula.
On a different job, a colleague warned Paula to never be alone with an angry coworker because she was afraid the angry coworker would physically attack Paula. Their supervisor erased the threat with simple & effective soft skill strategies.
After you finish the course you will have lifetime access to the Loyalty Treasury.
DISC Behavior Style Backlash Bewares, 12 not to dos
DISC Behavior Style Benefit Behaviors, 12 strategies
DISC Behavior Style Moments Of Dignity With You Invites, 24 invites
Spranger Guiding Value Backlash Bewares, 18 not to dos
Spranger Guiding Value Benefit Behaviors, 18 strategies
Spranger Guiding Value Moments of Passion With You Invites, 36 invites
Using soft skill power strategies with yourself to help you develop a deserving mindset
Bonus #1: No quizzes
Bonus #2: Occasional emails announcing new additions to the Loyalty Treasury: real world examples, new resources, and new strategies for success when Paula creates or discovers them.
23 of 31 videos finished. Current video time: About 48 minutes.
3 Workplace Beliefs is loyalty video #5
Both courses explain the importance of bystanders
with real world examples of bystander actions.
Using soft skill strategies proves to bystanders
that you have social competence,
one of the 2 core competencies of emotional intelligence.
Both courses presented by
Paula M. Kramer
Master’s in Communication
Soft Skills Mastermind
Paula faced glass ceilings as:
A disabled person living with invisible pain from of a misdiagnosed spinal injury
A single mother when her husband died while their daughter was a baby
A young person
An old person
Paula broke both stereotypes and glass ceilings to become:
An international speaker at age 50, adding to my international speaking resume from my late 60s on.
An international bestselling author for the first time at age 70.
An international TV producer at age 71.
Stereotypes About You that Build Glass Ceilings
You face more stereotypes than you realize.
Stereotypes are the building blocks of glass ceilings.
See the stereotypes about you in the blog posts that fit your life. Each blog post includes Points to Ponder:
Negative Stereotypes Behind Bad & Ugly Gossip: People In General
Negative Stereotypes Behind Bad & Ugly Gossip: Workplaces
Negative Stereotypes Behind Bad & Ugly Gossip: Romance
Negative Stereotypes Behind Bad & Ugly Gossip: Ethnic, National, & Racial Identities
Negative Stereotypes Behind Bad & Ugly Gossip: Poverty
The occasional emails will include information about new stereotypes in these blog posts.
You probably won’t be able to break every stereotype and every glass ceiling in your life.
But you won’t be able to break any stereotype or any glass ceiling unless you know how to break them.
You always have control with one particular group of people. Take advantage of that control to invite unimagined success to yourself.
© Paula M. Kramer, 2023
All rights reserved.
Updated May 12, 2023.
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