Remedy Revenge Is NOT Vindictive Revenge

People have accused me of being vindictive. They assume I want to hurt people. I do not want to hurt anyone because too many hurting people hurt other people.

Ending Pain Rather Than Continuing Pain

I want to stop hurt.

My mother tried to kill me twice. When the physical attempts to murder me failed, my mother did her best to kill me mentally and emotionally.

No one stopped my mother from hurting me.

Some people recognized that my mother was hurting me and took small actions to alleviate my pain.

No one stopped my mother from hurting me.

My mother hurt me because her mother hurt her.

No one stopped my grandmother from hurting my mother.

My grandfather left his family because my grandmother threatened him with a butcher knife.

My grandparents had been living in Hungary until World War I. After the war, their part of Hungary became part of Romania. They did not want to live in Romania, so they moved to the United States. They eventually settled in Chicago where they had no extended family.

My mother and her older sister were at the mercy of their paranoid schizophrenic mother, my grandmother.

I will spend the rest of my life doing what I can to stop hurt for other people.

Giving you real world examples of remedy revenge is one way of doing that. Ending pain for one person lessens pain for other people.

Remedy Revenge Ends Pain With Positive Actions

Remedy revenge creates positive outcomes:

Ending toxic words and actions

Creating justice for yourself and others

Inviting support from bystanders

Real World Examples Of Remedy Revenge

Remedy Revenge Against Toxic Managers

BuzzFeed, Example #25

Anonymous, 27 worked at a Bob Evans in a medium sized college-town. This franchise “had the worst general manager” because she had “major anger issues.”

Anonymous knew shortly after being hired that they would eventually endure Worst General Manager’s rage. After a shift misunderstanding, Worst General Manager “went off on” Anonymous.

The assistant manager “secretly recorded approximately 11 minutes of the confrontation, making sure to keep the screen black.” Assistant Manager quit after two months, and Anonymous quit three weeks after that. When the former Assistant Manager knew that Anonymous no longer worked at that Bob Evans, he put his video on YouTube. He tagged Bob Evans corporate in the caption.

Corporate tried to get the video removed three times. YouTube left the video up because “nobody was visually implicated in the video…”

When Corporate finally investigated, they asked the remaining employees “exactly how the work environment was.” The employees “did not hold back.”

Worst General Manager had to attend “court ordered anger management classes.” To keep her job, she also had to accept never advancing and never transferring.

Anonymous ended her story with, “So worth it.

“I’ll Never Regret It And I’m Not Sorry”: People Are Revealing How They Got Petty Revenge At Work, And Some Of Them Are Evil Geniuses

Example #25
Pernel Quilon
BuzzFeed
April 11, 2022

Remedy Revenge Against Banks

Paula M. Kramer Example

My bank account received a deposit it shouldn’t have received. I repeatedly told the bank to return the money. Instead, the bank held onto the money for a few days, then moved it into a long term hold for investigation.

I filed a complaint with the Office of the Comptroller of the Currency (OCC). The bank returned the deposit within 24 hours. I read reviews of the bank and saw that it frequently ignored customer instructions about deposits, putting the money into long term holds. I wrote my own review, telling my story about getting the money returned within 24 hours by filing a complaint with the OCC.

I no longer have an account with that bank. Every time I see its name, I wonder how many customers have filed complaints with the OCC to create justice for themselves.

Remedy Revenge Against Businesses

Buzzfeed, Example #42

Anonymous, 35 worked in a male-dominated industry that silenced her voice. They refused the further education she asked for. The company only paid her for her ‘official’ shift. They gave her keys to open the building and expected her to “hang around after work to meet and talk with other department heads,” but did not pay her for that extra time.

Anonymous, 35 talked to HR and the business owner, but still didn’t get paid for the full time she worked. She talked to other mangers who told her they weren’t paid for all the time they were on the job, either.

After complaining again, the company fired Anonymous, 35 for a failure in her ‘performance.’ She called the Department of Labor and told them the company was “withholding due wages.” The Department did an investigation that led to fines and more.

“53 people and all future employees benefited from that phone call. Mess with me, please!”

Example #42
Pernel Quilon
BuzzFeed
April 11, 2022

Remedy Revenge Against Criminals: Exposing Crimes

“Cyber Partisans”
Wikipedia

Remedy Revenge Against Criminals: Solving Crimes

“‘Mother Undercover’: How 4 women took matters into their own hands to get justice”
Thomas Viner
Rachel Morgan
Ivan Pereira
ABC News
July 26, 2023

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True Crime Story: Citizen Detective

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The Waltham Murders: One Woman’s Pursuit to Expose the Truth Behind a Murder and a National Tragedy
Susan Clare Zalkind
2024

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