October 31, 2023

Real world examples of backlash bewares.

New examples are added at the bottom of the list.

“The jury found Lorillard liable on a number of accusations, including negligence related to its marketing of Newports to kids, failure to warn Evans about health risks from smoking, acting in a willful, malicious, and wanton manner, and breach of warranty through distribution of a dangerous product. They held Lorillard 70% liable for Evans’ death and found her to be 30% liable.”

“$152 Million Boston Wrongful Death Verdict Awarded in Newport Cigarette Lawsuit”
Altman & Altman
December 16, 2010


“Following a week of intense debate over alleged racist elements in the tea party, a national coalition of tea parties has expelled one of its groups for offensive comments.”

“Tea Party Express suspended over Mark Williams’ ‘Lincoln’ letter”
Judy L. Thomas
The Kansas City Star
April 28, 2011


My granddaughter had an appointment with a professional she had already seen. Both my daughter and son-in-law were at their jobs, so I took my granddaughter to her appointment.

My 15 year old granddaughter gave the receptionist her name and confirmed all of the required information. The receptionist did not smile at my granddaughter. She looked at me with suspicion. The receptionist asked my granddaughter, “Who is this?” My granddaughter responded, “Grandma.”

Still looking at me with suspicion and no smile, the receptionist asked if I had permission to bring my granddaughter to the appointment. This was a scheduled appointment. The provider was expecting my granddaughter. The provider would not have been pleased about my granddaughter not showing up.

I have picked up 3 grandchildren from 3 different schools and driven them away in my car. No one at any of the schools ever looked at me with suspicion and asked if I had permission to take children away with me in my car. No one.

If the organization had taken the time to tell my daughter that they required permission for other adults to bring her daughter to appointments, she would have have filled out any required paperwork right away.

The receptionist who did not smile interrupted my daughter at her workplace to ask if her mother had permission to bring her daughter to a scheduled appointment. I said the situation was ridiculous. An employee in the back said it was an organization policy. I responded that it was a ridiculous policy.

The policy apparently included negativity and suspicion because that was the receptionist’s attitude throughout my encounter with her. The attitude of the receptionist and her coworker clearly blamed me for their employer’s failure to inform my daughter of the policy.

I walked to the waiting room while my granddaughter finished talking to the receptionist. Afterwards, I asked if the receptionist ever smiled at her. “A couple of times.” Apparently, 72 year old me was just too suspicious and potentially dangerous to deserve a smile.

I posted about this encounter on Facebook. Several friends responded with shock. One friend commented that the organization has been generating complaints for years. A coworker said this:

“Yeah, you kidnapped her so you could take her to a scheduled appointment.”

I wrote a Google review based on what I’ve written here. I wrote that the policy suggested to children that they should be suspicious of their grandparents. I wrote that this grandparent happens to be an international bestselling author, professional speaker, and TV producer. I wrote that the organization had given me examples of “Don’ts.” The biggest “Don’t” is to NEVER show suspicion toward an adult in front of a child who has identified that adult as a grandparent.

I also wrote that I spread positivity around the world and wondered if they wanted their employees to be negative toward their clients.

This post is my backlash for the receptionist’s negativity toward both my granddaughter and me and her suspicion towards me, available to international readers.

Readers in my local area will probably recognize the organization. All those years of complaints have given it a bad reputation, after all.


“Major advertisers flee X, deepening crisis at Elon Musk’s social media site”
November 17, 2023


“I can afford Apple, but this kind of dismissive arrogance makes me never want their products,” another user wrote.”

“Tim Cook gives flippant ‘buy an iPhone’ response to complaints about Apple’s inoperability with Android”
Jacob Seitz
Daily Dot
September 8, 2022


I graduated from high school in 1969, an all girl Catholic high school. My high school years were mentally and emotionally disturbing. I’m adding it as a backlash beware example because it continues to teach girls to judge each other rather than support each other. If you are a parent looking for an all girl high school, take these steps to ensure you choose a school that will teach your daughter(s) to be the kind of women men support instead of the kind of women men block.

1st: Look for examples on their website of alumnae in leadership positions.

2nd: Ask what percentage of alumnae donate money to the school.

3rd: Ask how they teach their students to support each other in spite of differences.

4th: Ask how they show equal support to all of their alumnae, including alumnae who do not donate money.

Since most people reading this blog won’t be parents looking for all girl schools, the backlash beware details are on my 4 Girl Mindsets page.


© Paula M. Kramer, 2023
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Updated November 21, 2023.