Chit Chatting For Career Conversations
Chit chatting with a wide variety of people
in a wide variety of situations
cultivates the confidence to create connections
with specific people in specific situations
for career conversations.
Bookstores
As I entered the bookstore, a man was talking to the owner. I heard him name a woman I know. He then talked about her ethnic background.
I announced,
“I’m her neighbor.”
I said the name of the village we live in.
Flustered, the man asked Bookstore Owner if our village was near another village. She said yes.
Note:
Whatever you say in public goes into the ears of bystanders, who might know more than you think they know.
Car Dealership
Forgotten Fix
May 4, 2023
In the waiting room, a decades younger woman looked at her watch. I asked how long she’d been waiting.
2 hours
She brought her car in for an oil change and forgot about a recall fix.
She was happy to leave before my windshield wiper replacement was finished.
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A Sign From Heaven
November 9, 2023
I had a conversation with another woman waiting for repairs. Her car was 12 years old and she’s loved it since the moment she first saw it.
When she came to the dealership to buy a car, that car was sitting by itself, no other cars around it. The sun came out and a ray of sunlight came down directly on that car.
Car Owner walked inside the dealership and said she wanted to buy the car in the sun without asking about the brand or price.
Her face glowed while she talked about her car.
Courthouse
I took my grandson to the clerk of courts office for a document he needed. We had to pass through security.
I asked the security agent if he ever found anything.
“Yes. Empty ankle holsters.”
Note to self: Time for an online search about spotting ankle holsters.
Concealed Holster Test – Can You Tell Who’s Concealed Carrying?
How To Tell If Someone Is Armed
Department Stores
Satisfying Oneself
May 11, 2023
I saw an elderly woman looking at flower bouquets. I encouraged her to buy one for herself.
“It’s the only way I get them!”
I told Elderly Woman to make sure she bought herself flowers.
Elderly Woman picked out a bouquet of red flowers.
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A Tall Woman
May 25, 2023
I collect stereotypes for my 5 blog posts listing stereotypes.
Standing behind a tall woman in line, I asked her about stereotypes she’s faced. Only stereotypes that she would be good at playing basketball and volleyball. She’s not at either sport.
Tall Woman had mostly dated must shorter men, so she saw no stereotypes about short men. She’s 3/4 of an inch taller than her husband.
She also has excellent hearing, much to her son’s regret.
When she finished checking out, Tall Woman thanked me for the conversation.
Negative Stereotypes Behind Bad & Ugly Gossip: People In General
Negative Stereotypes Behind Bad & Ugly Gossip: Workplaces
Negative Stereotypes Behind Bad & Ugly Gossip: Romance
Negative Stereotypes Behind Bad & Ugly Gossip: Ethnic, National, & Racial Identities
Negative Stereotypes Behind Bad & Ugly Gossip: Poverty
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Hope
December 14, 2023
A young man walked up to the self-checkout next to the one I was using. He bought a bouquet of flowers. a vase. and a card.
I wanted to encourage Young Man.
“I hope she likes them.”
Young Man smiled at me.
“I hope so, too.”
He was finished before I was, and wished me a good day before walking away.
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Caffeine Persona
January 11, 2024
The customer in front of me seemed to be having fun with the young man who was cashiering. He seemed to be having fun, too.
When it was my turn, I asked Cashier if he liked his job.
“I’ve had a lot of caffeine.”
I asked if he’d had a lot of caffeine because he didn’t get enough sleep the night before.
“I got good sleep…and I’ve had a lot of caffeine.”
I hope to checkout with Cashier again to see what he’s like without a lot of caffeine.
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Smiles For Children
May 9, 2024
I smiled at a baby in a a cart that passed me. Then I smiled at the little girl in line in front of me. I said to the mother,
“I missed smiling at children when we had to wear masks for COVID.”
She agreed and said,
“We just looked angry when we tried to smile.”
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Demonstrating Networking For Success Step #3: Look for common ground.
June 2, 2024
Waiting my turn in line for a busy service person, I turned around to watch people walking past. I saw a Black woman pushing a cart, one daughter sitting in the cart while another daughter walked in front of the cart. All wore red blouses. I was also wearing a red blouse.
I walked up to the mother and said,
“I like your red tops! I’m wearing a red top!”
Black Mother smiled and said,
“Yes! You ought to come with us!”
The 2 girls learned from a stranger how to look for common ground. They learned from their mother how to respond to positively to common ground. They now have examples to follow when networking for their own success.
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Enjoying Freckles
July 8, 2024
The young cashier had freckles all over her cheeks. I told her that when I was younger I had freckles just like hers. I said I miss them.
She loves her freckles, too.
“I hate it in the winter.”
I hoped her freckles could stay dark for her so she can continue to enjoy them.
Garden Center
Lilacs
April 27, 2023
I asked a man about multiple plants he was wheeling out to his truck. All lilacs, white and purple.
I told him about my lilacs, burgundy.
A pleasant conversation with laughter and smiles.
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Seeing Equality
May 5, 2023
I arrived at the garden center shortly after it opened for the day to buy big bags of soil. I made eye contact with both of the cashiers while saying I needed help getting the bags to my car. The cashier with Asian features helped me.
We had a conversation about the wide variety of people who come into the garden center sharing an interest in growing things. We agreed it would be beneficial to acknowledge that differences don’t matter when interests is shared.
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Loving Husband
May 15, 2024
In the outside area, I saw a woman pushing a cart with several flower pots for hanging. I said they would be beautiful.
Lucky Wife and her husband had been driving past a business on a highway when they saw a wooden stand with several arms for hanging flower pots. She admired the plant stand. A few days later, they went for a close up look at the wooden stand. Loving Husband took measurements. Two days later, Lucky Wife had the wooden stand she had admired. She was buying the same plants they saw on the stand in front of the business.
“Your husband loves you!”
She agreed.
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Cart Accident Benefit
May 15, 2024
Standing in line at the same outside area, the woman behind me grazed my leg with her cart. She apologized.
“I thought I missed your leg.”
I assured her it wasn’t a bad hit. I admired her annuals. Picking up one pot with a white flower, she told me it was a double impatiens that looks like a rose. She was pleased to have found one.
“They’re hard to find.”
The plant was beautiful.
“I’m glad you bumped into me, because now I know to look for double impatiens!”
Gas Stations
Frozen Car Door Solution
January 2, 2024
I drove to the gas station this morning, but couldn’t get gas. I forgot that recent freezing rain meant my gas door would be iced closed. I’d forgotten to put a spray bottle with alcohol in my car for freezing rain days. I spray the alcohol into the cracks around the door and wait a few moments. A neighbor had suggested alcohol for a frozen car door lock, and it worked with frozen car doors, too.
Going back this evening after warmer temperatures had thawed my gas door, I told the attendant about my failed gas run this morning.
Attendant nearly pulled his door handle off his car door after freezing rain. He had to crawl in through the passenger door until he could afford to fix his door handle.
I told him my alcohol in a spray bottle solution.
No more door handle replacements for him.
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Cloud Or Flying Saucer?
May 11, 2024
While filling my car with gas, I saw a cloud that had a face showing surprise. I finished with the gas, stuck the nozzle in the pump, and walked around the pump to take a photograph. By then the clouds had shifted. Walking back to my car I said to the short old man with a long white beard,
“The cloud had a face.”
Old White Beard said,
“I thought you might have seen a flying saucer!”
I said,
“That would have been better!”
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Podcast / Real Life
June 14, 2024
Driving to the gas station, I listened to an Art of Manliness Podcast about neighbors and community #176. Guest Marc J. Dunkelman talked about the vanishing middle ring of social life.
A man got out of his car on the opposite side of my pump and said,
“Good morning.”
I told him about the podcast. The host was saying we’ve lost the art of talking to our neighbors and I get out of my car to him greeting me.
“That’s why we live in a small community.”
I told him that I make a point of getting to know my neighbors. When I had a recent water leak, 4 neighbors helped me with it. I said the name of my village. He said he lives just up the road from me. He did look familiar, so I introduced myself and he told me his name. I do know him, but I know his wife better than I know him.
I sent my greetings to his wife.
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Grandma Satisfaction
June 14, 2024
Going inside the gas station right after the conversation above, I asked the cashier how often she sees her grandchildren.
She was picking 2 of them up later that day for a farm open house. They were spending the night.
This cashier has a job at a business where the president treated me badly. I’ve been making a point of being friendly to her, and we enjoy seeing each other.
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Something Instead of Nothing
July 3, 2024
I asked the clerk if she had to work on July 4th.
“Only in the morning.”
I asked if she would get holiday pay.
“I think they give gift cards.”
I said that least it was something.
“That’s what I thought.”
Grocery Stores
Gardening
May 24, 2023
In a checkout line, I asked the decades younger man behind me if he plants anything. He rototills for a friend and enjoys the harvest.
I told Rototiller Man I hung an in door strawberry plant outside today.
We wished each other happy planting.
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Shoplifting
May 4, 2023
In a self-checkout section, I asked 1 of 2 young attendants about theft. She said it’s bad.
I told her about my experience as an employee in a small Chicago specialty shop. A white man in business attire shoplifted a small statue from Africa.
We agreed that shoplifters are not always who you think they are.
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One Cashier
May 11, 2023
Only one cashier was checking out customers. I asked her if the store was short-staffed. Cashier said the store had reduced staff hours. A lot of employees wanted to earn money, but couldn’t get the schedules they needed to earn enough money to pay their bills.
I felt sad for all the employees who wanted to earn money to pay their bills, but couldn’t.
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Tired Cashier
May 18, 2023
Walking into the store, a clerk asked me how I was. I said I was good because I had slept well. I asked if she had slept well.
No she hadn’t, but was getting off soon and would take a nap.
I wished her a good nap. Clerk thanked me.
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My Bad Parking
May 20, 2023
I drove to a small grocery store and parked right next to the building. I parked a little too wide because the space was next to a tent with hanging plants. I saw my tires on the line, but told myself I would be quick.
When I came out a few minutes later, people were getting out of their car on the other side of the parking space I had blocked. I said I hadn’t parked very well.
“It happens.’
I said more in winter than in spring.
“You lost that excuse!”
We laughed.
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Equality In Laughter
June 15, 2023
I sent a text while in the store. My iPhone changed ‘going to’ into ‘Giotto’ for some strange reason. Laughing, I approached a white female employee and a Black male employee to share the laughter.
White Female was closer, so I held my phone for her to see first. We laughed a bit while Black Male looked off to the side.
I made a point of holding my phone so Black Male could read the text himself. We also laughed a bit.
It was an easy way to demonstrate equality to the bystanders in the same aisle.
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A Score For Smiles
July 1, 2023
In line at a small grocery store, I noticed a magazine cover with the face of Jackie Kennedy and a story about her secret life. Jackie Kennedy died in 1994.
The older female cashier rarely smiled at me, but I referred to the magazine cover and said it was written for people our age.
Older Female Cashier smiled AND chuckled then said,
“I noticed that. I wondered if they had a slow week.”
Got her to smile! SCORE!
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A Mat Not Doing Its Job
July 15, 2023
I walked into the grocery store where the unsmiling cashier finally smiled with me over a magazine cover. She watched me walk in and walk onto a floor mat.
“You nearly tripped on that mat. It has one job to do and it has trouble doing it. All it has to do
is stay flat on the floor, but it won’t.”
Laughing, I suggested training.
Formerly Unsmiling Cashier went from not smiling with me to smiling with me, then to joking with me!
DOUBLE SCORE!
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Believing The Cashier
July 13, 2023
In the checkout line, I saw fruit flavored chocolate bars. I asked the cashier if he had tried them. He said he had, the chocolate was good, and he would check me out again if I went back for it.
I did go back for the chocolate, and I did go through Cashier’s line again.
“I’m believing you!”
“Thank you!”
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Hair Colors
October 20. 2023
The cashier had corkscrew hair that was brown on the top half and dark pink on the bottom half.
I asked if she colors her own hair.
“I do.”
I asked if she going to try any other colors.
“Eventually, but I’m sticking with the dark pink for now.”
I told her it looks very good.
“Thank you.”
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Brotherly Fun
February 09, 2024
A cashier had stand up hair on top of his head. It was colored a combination of orange and yellow.
I asked if he ever got negative comments about his hair.
“No, they’re mostly positive. Only my brother gives me trouble.”
I wondered if trouble was what he could expect from a brother.
He agreed.
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Breaking Stereotypes
February 9, 2024
The family in front of me had a cart full of groceries. The big husky father stood behind the car, feeding the tiny child in the seat. The mother stood at the front of the cart, unloading everything.
I walked up to stand between the father and mother and to tell them how impressed I was to see the woman unloading the cart while the man fed the child.
They responded positively.
The Black male cashier said that teamwork mattered more than stereotyped roles.
No one was behind me, so Black Male Cashier told me how frustrated he was with the stereotype that Black fathers are absent.
His father worked for a railroad. His mother had her own daycare business in their house.
Father came home from his railroad job to cook dinner while Mother drove the daycare children home.
Teamwork instead of stereotyped roles.
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Unwelcome Find
February 27, 2024
The woman in front of me in line was wearing green rubber boots with white polka dots. I told her I liked the boots.
Boot Wearer puts them on once a year at maple syrup time. She shakes them out before she puts them on, just in case something crawled in over the last year.
I told her my story.
I spent a lot of time with an elderly woman. I went to her house one winter day to take her out.
When I went for her boots, I smelled something dead in that room. I could not find any small corpse.
I put one boot on my friend’s left foot and all went well.
But Elderly Woman told me the right boot had something in it when I tried putting it on her foot. Luckily, I turned the boot upside down instead of reaching inside.
Dead mouse.
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Mother’s Day Reminder
May 12, 2024
The grandma-looking woman in front of me in line was all dressed up. I asked if she was dressed up for Mother’s Day or for church. She responded that it was Sunday so she was dressed up for church.
However…
“No one in church said anything about Mother’s Day, so I stood up and wished every mother a Happy Mother’s Day.”
The wisdom of grandmas!
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Something In The Air
June 20, 2024
My purchases came to $20.39. I pulled out coins and a $20 bill. I counted through my coins and handed 39 cents to the young cashier. An older cashier stood by, obviously training Young Cashier. Young Cashier looked at the coins with confusion. I realized I hadn’t given her the $20 bill and handed it over.
“Sorry, I forgot I hadn’t given you the $20.”
Young Cashier looked confused in a new way.
“You don’t have to give me the 39 cents if you give me a $20.”
Training Cashier leaned over and said,
“She gave you the 39 cents because she wants a single bill back.”
We all laughed and I said,
“There’s something in the air that made us both lose our ability to think.”
We all laughed again.
Homes
Understanding Each Other’s Lives
June 20, 2024
Plumbers came to my house to fix a leak. I asked Older Plumber how many more jobs they had today. Three small ones, then a big one.
“Why do you ask?”
I said I was curious.
After they finished the job, I explained that I think the country would be more effective if we understood each other’s lives.
Older Plumber asked what kind of work I do. I said I was currently doing home healthcare, but was also setting up online self-study courses. I told both plumbers about my childhood spinal injury that made earning money difficult. I asked them to tell any children in their lives to never pull a chair out from under anyone. Some people are instantly paralyzed if they land the wrong way. Older Plumber said,
“You were lucky.”
I agreed.
More understanding, one chit chat conversation at a time.
Library
Scooter Fun
May 24, 2023
As I walked toward the library, I stopped to look at a scooter in the bike rack. It was a triangle with rounded corners.
I left the library at the same time as the scooter owners, a little girl with her father. I said I’d never seen that kind of scooter before.
Father showed me the long dog leash he had attached to the front of the scooter for pulling it when Daughter didn’t feel like propelling it. I noticed the ankle brace on his leg. Father had sprained it running with the scooter.
Daughter giggled as the scooter bounced off the sidewalk onto the road. I laughed with her.
Meat Market
Ending Water Retention
May 18, 2023
When I picked up my bi-weekly order of chicken thighs, a new employee asked me why I buy so many chicken thighs.
I explained that my stressful life had left me with water weight problems and water in my inner ears. Taurine in chicken thighs work with magnesium citrate from supplements and potassium from fruits and vegetables to release excess water from cells.
New Employee can now pass the information on to other customers, creating a little more happiness in the world.
I have lost water weight without dieting and my hearing has improved.
Medical Clinic
Best & Brightest
May 18, 2023
In the waiting room, I watched a news segment about a man who had installed 15 life vest kiosks along a river in Richland County, Wisconsin. A 5 year old girl not wearing a life vest had drowned in that river. Police have never pulled a body wearing a life jacket out of that section of the river.
I told the receptionist about this wonderful project. We agreed that the best and the brightest are ordinary.
Neighborhood
Making Work Fun
Spring 2023
My neighborhood is building a low stone wall along our property line. I went out to see what the workers were doing. I said I was just curious and asked about some planks on the ground.
The man in charge came from the other side of the long hole to explain what the wood was for.
I asked them all if they enjoy their work.
“Sometimes”
One of the other workers said,
“If not for these two, it wouldn’t be any fun at all.”
I was happy to bring positive feelings between the coworkers into the open.
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Fun At Work
December 15, 2023
I was at a neighbor’s house when his septic field was being replaced. I watched for a bit, then asked a worker if he considered his job fun.
“Oh, yes! I get to work outside!”
I observed that they get to dig things up.
“Oh, yeah! You can wreck a lot of things.”
Parking Lots
Fun Grandma
May 3, 2024
I saw a Grandma drive into the lot in a PC Cruiser convertible. A small boy sat in the back seet. I approached the car. I told PC Convertible Cruiser Grandson he was lucky to be riding around in a convertible with his Grandma and told him he had a fun Grandma.
Grandma said,
“He’s a fun grandson.”
She also described her the PC Cruiser convertible as her “fun car.”
As we walked toward the store I told PC Cruiser Grandma I was happy that other people could see a Grandma driving a fun car.
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Motorcycles
June 9, 2024
As I approached my car, a white haired man with a mustache was getting ready to put his helmet on before riding his motorcycle again. I told him that when I was 25, I had a motorcycle boyfriend.
Kurt and I met in May and he told me right away that he was moving to San Diego in November. We were too different to maintain a long term relationship, but we had a lot of fun that summer, my motorcycle summer.
Motorcycle Man’s wife use to ride with him, but now she has medical problems. He can take only short trips alone. He’s trying to talk his wife into getting a convertible or jeep, but she keeps saying she’d be too cold. H keeps pointing out that she rode the motorcycle for years.
I said to remind her that that they would be riding in an open car together. He smiled.
I hope she listens.
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License Plate
July 23, 2024
I parked next to a big pickup truck. The license plate said Arizona. A tall man approached the truck. I asked if he was from Arizona. Taken aback, he said yes. I asked what he was doing in Wisconsin. He used to live here.
He looked at his license plate and realized I knew he was from Arizona because of his license plate. He was obviously relieved.
I asked him what he does in Arizona.
“Living the dream.”
I congratulated him, then went inside the thrift store.
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Appreciated Compliment
July 23, 2024
Coming out of the thrift store, I walked into the parking lot where I had the conversation with the man who had an Arizona license plate.
Moving past a group of 6 women, I said,
“I see fashionable older women shop here!”
1 of the 6 said,
“I take that as a compliment!”
I said,
“It is a compliment. We know how to shop!”
Laughter and agreement.
Post Office
Tattoos
March 26, 2024
The postal worker had tattoos on the front of her neck, a flower design like a necklace chain.
I asked what position she had to hold her head in to get that tattoo.
She had to think about it because she got that tattoo years ago. She rested her head far back.
I asked how long she had to hold that position.
As long as she could stand it.
I told her I liked her tattoo and she thanked me. We wished each other a good day.
Schools
Knees
June 21, 2024
I took my granddaughter to her for a Bible summer camp afternoon. As I walked in, I saw a young teacher’s assistant wearing short shorts, all the way up the thigh shorts.
On my out I stopped to talk to the principal. I said I’d seen the young woman wearing shorts. I told him that I had attended an all girl Catholic high school in the 1960s. We had to wear uniforms.
“If we showed our knees, we got into so much trouble!”
Principal’s response was to wonder
“what could have happened”
if people had seen our knees.
Thrift Stores
Cleaning Out The Store
May 25, 2023
I was leaving a thrift store as an old man rode up on his bicycle. He asked me if I cleaned out the store.
I listed the 5 items I bought.
“You did clean out the store!”
I laughingly apologized and went on my way.
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Liking Only Some Attention
May 25, 2023
I noticed that a mother had pink and purple tints in her one-shaved-side hairstyle. Her young daughter’s shirt had pink and purple on the front.
I said this was the best mother / daughter coordination I’d ever seen. Pink & Purple Hair Mother told her daughter to thank me.
I happened to stand behind them in the checkout line. I pointed out the color coordination to the cashier. I could tell that the Pink & Purple Hair Mother was not happy about what I said.
Despite her attention-attracting hairstyle, Pink & Purple Hair Mother did not like the attention I was drawing to her.
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Visiting The Cat
June 8, 2023
I visited a thrift store, but found nothing.
A man and woman were walking into the store as I was leaving. I said I hadn’t found anything and wished them luck.
The man laughed and said,
“I’m just here to visit the cat!”
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30+ Year Old Stereotype
July 13, 2023
I noticed a woman who looked familiar, so I talked to her. She was the identical twin of a woman who had worked at the local university. We talked about the university.
During our conversation, Twin suddenly said the name of a woman who had worked at the university more than 30 years ago. She called the woman a prostitute and claimed that the woman had slept with the chancellor to get her unique position.
I was speechless from shock.
Another student and I had done an independent study project in grad school with Stereotyped Woman. That student friend had been employed at the university while taking classes.
After getting home, I contacted Grad School Friend, wanting to know how Stereotyped Woman had been hired so I knew what to say if her name ever came up again. Twin told me about a friend who spread ugly gossip everywhere she went.
Grad School Friend explained that people in unique positions are recruited by search committees. It just so happened that Grad School Friend was on the search committee for that unique position.
Plus, I found information online saying that Chancellor had recruited the woman to take the university position. He apparently gave Stereotyped Woman’s name to the committee so they could offer her the position. At the time, Chancellor and Stereotyped Woman lived in different parts of the country.
Now I know what to say in the event I ever hear similar ugly gossip about Stereotyped Woman again.
I’ve also decided what to do if anyone else ever speaks an ugly gossip stereotype to me.
“I’ll check up on that and see what I discover for myself.”
Use this story to protect yourself.
You can never tell who someone knows just by looking at them.
Twin used ugly gossip about someone I had worked with because she assumed I did not know the victim of her ugly gossip trashing.
Trash anyone and you risk trashing them to someone who knows them.
Is the trashing worth the risk to you?
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Playing During Checkout
October 27, 2023
The man in front of me paid with cash. The cashier checked to make sure the bill wasn’t counterfeit. I asked if she’d ever gotten a counterfeit bill.
“No.”
Male Customer joked that Cashier didn’t realize how we were working together and I was distracting her while he committed a crime. We now knew that this hadn’t happened to her before, so it would be easy to put one over on her.
As Male Customer walked away, I told him it was fun playing with him.
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From Spit To Cheers
November 16, 2023
I was in a checkout line behind an elderly gentleman holding a Mickey Mouse jigsaw puzzle. We both liked the bright colors.
He buys jigsaw puzzles for his granddaughter with autism. Sometimes, Granddaughter looks at a puzzle and shakes her head. He returns that one and buys a different one.
He also buys jigsaw puzzles for veterans, who often don’t like his choices either.
I asked Elderly Gentleman if he was a veteran. He was drafted into the Army during the Viet Nam War.
Elderly Gentleman took an Honor Flight to Washington D.C. last month. When the veterans landed after their long day, 1000 people were waiting at the local airport to cheer for them. He said it was much better than when Americans spit on drafted soldiers returning in 1967.
I told Elderly Gentleman that I saw a local news report about their return and was happy to see the cheers.
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Colorful Word
April 18, 2024
I found capri pants that were a cross between blue and purple. I was looking for purple capri pants, but liked this color and knew it would look good with my green and purple blouse.
When I checked out I asked the cashier what color she thought the pants were.
“Periwinkle.”
I said I wouldn’t have thought of that word. I asked Cashier if she’s an artist.
“I try to be.”
Cashier is more of an artist than I am.
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Following My Feeling & Learning Something New
May 17, 2024
I felt I should go to a particular thrift store. I found 2 pieces of clothing I’d been looking for.
Standing in line, the woman in front of me commented on my bruised thumb. I had closed a screen door on it and the bottom half was purple.
Talkative Customer told me that she had badly bruised a thumb when a log she threw into a wood stove bounced back at her, hitting her middle finger against the stove rim. Her finger throbbed badly and sticking it into ice water only made the pain worse. She sterilized a needle and poked 3 holes into her thumbnail.
“The blood spurted out.”
The pain stopped. She learned that technique from her mother during her rural childhood.
I had never heard of poking holes into a fingernail. I told Talkative Customer that icing my thumb hadn’t helped either. The pain finally stopped a while after I put arthritis cream on the nail and around the nail.
Talkative Customer than showed me a book she found in the store about home remedies to try before going to the doctor. I took a photograph of the cover with my cell phone.
Before You Call the Doctor: Safe, Effective Self-Care for Over 300 Common Medical Problems
Bobbie Hasselbring
Michael Castleman
Anne Simons M.D.
I told her about apple cider vinegar for burns. I discovered the healing power of apple cider vinegar on a semester abroad in Europe. We stayed in a dorm room in Hungary. Each room had a sink with a glass shelf and mirror above it. Because Hungary is a poorer country, the edge of the glass shelf was rough and sharp, not sealed in any way.
One night, I bent forward to rinse my face off after washing it. I hit the sharp edge of the glass and gashed my forehead, a small gash, luckily. I was using aloe vera gel and apple cider vinegar on my face, and applied them despite a minor sting. I continued to use the gel and vinegar every day. The gash healed without a scar. Curious, I tried applying apple cider vinegar to bug bites, rashes, and burns. It helped every time.
Then one day I made a stupid decision. I put honey in a measuring cup in the microwave to warm. When I took the measuring cup out, the bottom fell off and boiling honey poured over my left hand. Remembering the apple cider vinegar, I poured vinegar into a rubber glove, put my excruciatingly painful left hand into the glove, and rubber banded it onto my wrist. As soon as my hand went into the vinegar, the pain stopped.
Fearing for my fingernails after 2 hours, I took my hand out of the glove. No pain. Half inch high blisters, but no pain. I soaked my hand in apple cider vinegar for half an hour a day until the blisters subsided. Still no pain. I kept the blisters covered with band aids to protect them. As my skin healed, it stayed red for weeks. The redness faded. No one could look at my left hand today and think I had that kind of burn.
Talkative Customer was happy to hear a new self-care solution.
We exchanged names and shook hands.
“Aren’t you glad you met me?”
I said I was.
On the way out of the store, Talkative Customer said something about television preachers talking about prosperity, but that prosperity wasn’t always about money. I agreed with her. I said I have neighbor prosperity. My neighbors have my back in all kinds of ways. As I write this, I have a leak in the roof over my kitchen. Three of my neighbors are helping me get my roof back to leak proof. A fourth neighbor cleaned ceiling pieces off of my kitchen floor.
I live alone in a big house because a relationship ended and children moved on. Years ago, one of my friends asked if I was going to move to a smaller house. I told her I would never move away from my neighbors. The neighbors who have my back range in age from early 40s to late 70s. My back is covered for years to come.
Talkative Customer agreed with my idea of prosperity.
Chit chatting leads to more than career conversations. It also leads to social safety nets.
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Updated July 24, 2024
Chit chatting with a wide variety of people in a wide variety of situations cultivates the confidence to create connections with specific people in specific situations for career conversations. Bookstores As I entered the bookstore, a man was talking to the owner. I heard him name a woman I know. He then talked about her ethnic background. I announced, “I’m her neighbor.” I said the name of the village we live in.